
Blessing your children can be a very special shared moment. Before beginning
Sabbath dinner take a moment to lay your hands on your child's head and give
the gift of your blessing. You can use the traditional words in the words
and deeds section, or bless your children in whatever way you wish.
If this feels alien to you, think in terms your personal prayers for your child's
well-being, protection and growth. Some households have the custom of blessing
everyone present.

The Sabbath meal is preceded by the reciting of kiddush, the sanctification
of Shabbat over wine. In Jewish life, wine is a symbol for joy. The kiddush
describes the Sabbath as a commemoration of both the universal -- the creation
of the world -- and the particular -- God's redemption of Israel from Egypt.
What does the exodus from Egypt have to do with Shabbat? Not only do we ourselves
rest on the Sabbath in imitation of God's rest from creation, but we give our
servants, slaves and even our animals rest. Since the Israelites were liberated
from servitude by God, they are commanded in turn to give rest to others on
the Sabbath. (For the text of kiddush please refer to words
and deeds.)

Challot (the Hebrew plural of challah) are the braided loaves
traditionally eaten on Shabbat. We bless two challot at every meal to
commemorate the Jews who wandered in the desert after they were freed from Egypt.
On each morning in the desert the wanderers received one portion of manna, but
on Friday they received two portions to prevent bread-collecting on the Sabbath
itself. After collecting this double portion they had everything they needed
for the Sabbath. (See the words and deeds
section for the words of the blessing, and our recipe
section to learn to bake your own.)

As you have seen, the Sabbath is a time of many blessings -- those which we
recite, and those in which we partake. One central blessing is the blessing
that is recited after the meal. This blessing is not particular to the Sabbath
but one that is recited every time one eats a meal with bread -- the staple
of our diet. The blessing gives thanks for the land and its bounty, and for
God's goodness in feeding all creatures. Some families sing this blessing and
others recite it to themselves. (On the words
and deeds page you will find the English text for the first section.)
Song
Sabbath meals are made joyous by communal singing. Traditionally, families
sing Hebrew songs that are specific to the Sabbath. However, you may try singing
your family's favorite songs. Singing immeasurably increases a sense of festivity
around the dinner table.

On the Sabbath day there is also a festive midday meal. Again kiddush,
is recited (it is a kiddush particular to Saturday afternoon and
different from the one recited on Friday night - see the words
and deeds page.) After lunch many people take an opportunity for a long
and luxurious nap. Saturday afternoon is also a good time for study, reading,
or taking long meditative walks.

Havdalah brings the Sabbath to a close in the same way it began -- with light.
For this ritual, we use one braided candle instead of two separate candles.
The braided candles symbolize the two separate flames becoming one through the
unifying force of Shabbat.
This ceremony includes blessings over wine, spices, light, and for the God
who distinguishes between the sacred and the profane, between darkness and light.
(See the words and deeds section
for the text of the ceremony and its details.)